No, You Don’t Need a Castle: 5 Myths about Fantasy-Themed Elopements We Need To Stop Believing

Spoiler alert: fantasy elopements are way less intimidating and way more meaningful than people assume.

Fantasy-themed elopements are having a moment, and it’s for a good reason. Still, every time the word fantasy comes up, a handful of specific (and slightly dramatic) assumptions seem to follow.

Cue the raised eyebrows. The nervous laugh. The immediate mental image of cosplay, castles, or doing way too much.

Let’s lovingly clear some things up. Integrating fantasy into your elopement can open up so many possibilities, allowing you to step into a world that feels otherworldly, cinematic, and deeply personal. But despite their growing popularity, there are still a lot of misconceptions that stop many couples from fully embracing the idea.

If you’ve ever thought “that sounds beautiful, but…”, this post is for you. Let’s bust five of the most common myths about fantasy-inspired elopements.

Myth # 1: Fantasy elopements aren’t timeless and are too costumey

The truth: Fantasy elopements are about atmosphere and vibes, not just costumes.

While some couples do lean into crowns, cloaks, or ethereal styling (LOVE that), fantasy elopements are not about dressing as a character. They’re most importantly inspired by the feelings associated with your favorite stories—the yearning, the timeless love, and the sense of stepping outside of modern life.

Think flowy fabrics, historic architecture, misty forests, candlelight, and intentional details, all of which can reflect the fantasy while maintaining that classic elegance. Just because you want to integrate fantasy elements doesn’t mean you need wigs, swords, or over-the-top outfits. It can be as subtle or dramatic as you want to be.

And capturing the essence of your most beloved stories because they’re a genuine representation of you and what you love? There’s nothing more timeless than that.

Myth # 2: You need a huge budget to make it work

The truth: Fantasy is created through intention, not excess.

A fantasy elopement doesn’t require a castle rental, a bunch of props, or a motherlode cheat for a million gold coins. The most magical settings are often found in nature, like mountain overlooks, forests, rocky coastlines, ruins, or even just your backyard. Some couples have their ceremony at their cozy Airbnb (with the owner’s permission, of course) and take their portraits at a nearby scenic location.

With thoughtful styling and a story-driven approach, fantasy elopements can actually be simpler and more cost-effective than traditional weddings.

Myth # 3: Fantasy elopements don’t feel as “real” or meaningful as typical weddings

The truth: Fantasy often makes elopements more emotionally grounded.

Fantasy isn’t about escaping reality—it’s about expressing truth in a symbolic way (and maybe making it feel a little more epic than your average Tuesday). Many couples are drawn to fantasy themes because they reflect values like devotion, adventure, fate, or legacy. You’re not playing a part or pretending to be someone you’re not—you’re celebrating the parts of yourselves that make you feel the most alive. That make you feel the most you.

Writing vows by candlelight (if it doesn’t strain your eyes), exchanging rings in a secluded forest, or wearing attire that feels magical can make the experience feel deeply sacred and intentional, often more so than a traditional wedding format.

Myth # 4: People won’t take a fantasy elopement seriously

The truth: Most people are more inspired than judgmental.

It’s easy to worry that choosing something unconventional means people will see it as “childish” or “inauthentic”. But a fantasy elopement isn’t about putting on a performance—it’s about creating a meaningful experience that genuinely reflects your love. That makes your elopement just as authentic and valid as any traditional wedding.

More often than not, people aren’t rolling their eyes. They’re quietly admiring and wishing for that experience, too.

Myth # 5: Fantasy elopements are only for daring, adventurous couples

The truth: Fantasy elopements are for intentional couples.

You don’t need to be hiking cliff edges, scaling mountains, or doing anything that makes your mom nervous. Fantasy elopements can be peaceful, intimate, and grounded, making them a perfect option for the introverts who want to celebrate in a way that’s meaningful and quiet.

Fantasy doesn’t have to mean going on a thrilling adventure. At it’s foundation, it’s about choosing symbolism, good vibes, and meaning over tradition. Whether you’re adventurous or homebodies at heart, fantasy elopements meet you where you are.

Final Thoughts

Fantasy-themed elopements aren’t about pretending to be someone else—they’re about stripping away expectations and creating a world that feels honest, intimate, and meaningful to you.

If you’re old souls with an enchanting love story, you’re not “doing too much” by weaving those vibes into your elopement. You’re simply choosing a celebration that reflects who you are.

Honestly? That’s the most magical choice of all.

Thinking about a fantasy-inspired elopement but not sure how far to take it?

That’s where I come in. I help couples create cinematic, intentional elopement experiences that feel magical without feeling forced, awkward, or over-the-top.

If you’re dreaming of an elopement that’s timeless, otherworldly, and deeply personal, I’d love to help you bring it to life.

About Me

I’m Ashton—a photographer dedicated to capturing the magic and beauty of love through dreamy and story-driven photography.

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